- Can mental strength be built?
- Do you struggle with your mental strength and outlook on life?
- If mental strength can be built how do you develop it?
When it comes to becoming mentally strong you have to have this trait in order to face life’s challenges. However, today I want to touch on how you can nurture your mental strength in order to grow it. Trust me there are some real concrete strategies you can put into place to make this happen.
Mentally Strong For Life
Mental strength can be built with you just like physical strength, but you MUST be willing to nurture it.
To some level I do believe that mental strength may be present in all of us, but it just has to be awakened. At the end of the day an individual can choose to nurture this trait, or not.
The truth is that it’s not so easy to do this because human nature is always about taking the path of least resistance. It’s easier to play the victim than to be mentally strong. Whether it be mental, or physical, strength is not easy to come by.
In other words, when it comes to strength you can’t lease it, you can’t buy it, and you can’t borrow it. You just simply have to earn it and for many in today’s society this is the path less traveled.
Growing up I remember my dad used to keep a sheet of paper with a quote on it attached to our refrigerator so that we all would see it at the beginning of everyday. The quote was rather lengthy, but it was the last line in the quote that stood out because it wrapped everything up.
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.—Charles Swindoll
The focus of this entire quote was based around our attitude. In the full quote Swindoll points out that your attitude is more important than money, skill, circumstances, failures, and successes.
He says that we can’t control how other people will engage us, how others will react to us, but the one thing we do have a choice in daily is the attitude we choose to embrace for that day. I truly believe this to be the first step towards building mental strength. Without the right attitude you can’t compartmentalize life’s obstacles as they come firing towards you to try to knock you off course.
Believe me I’ve had to sit and think on this quite a few times in my life when things were going rough and as it turns out my dad had communicated to me later in life that he did much the same. Just remember that during those mental struggles it’s easy to think that you are the only one going through whatever it is that you might be going through, but in reality there are others in the same boat.
Granted it takes energy to start the day to get yourself into the right frame of mind, then to maintain that frame of mind, and finally to close the day out with it. However, despite this energy it’s necessary and you will start building more mental strength the more you do so.
Set yourself up to win small battles in order to win big battles:
A good strategy to becoming mentally strong is to be consistent about setting small achievable goals.
Now to be clear about this these should be challenging goals that enforce a noticeable change in your behavior. In other words, I’m not just talking about making sure you throw your underwear into the laundry, or that you take responsibility for taking the garbage out tonight.
Those things are good, but I’m talking about an action that forces you to get out of your comfort zone while also involving something that you can track.
Obviously since you’re reading about this here on this site setting physical goals is going to be a great start.
This may involve you setting a goal to do 300 push-ups in 5 days, or to hike 15 miles in a week. These aren’t impossible goals. In fact, these are very achievable, but they ARE challenging. As you accomplish these goals you’ll find that you’ll start building up victories.
Over time the more of these smaller victories you win you’ll start building up more confidence. As you build this confidence the size of your goals will grow which will allow you to conquer bigger and bigger things.
This behavior will continue to reinforce your actions and this in turn will help you to develop a sound level of mental confidence and strength in your abilities. Your confidence will grow daily and it will transform your entire mindset over the long haul.
Understand that your failure is NOT fatal:
Defeat is a state of mind; no one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality.—Bruce Lee
One of the biggest steps to building mental strength is first recognizing that failure is not fatal. This is something that is initially very difficult for most people to do because the initial feeling of failure is disappointment.
You see disappointment sucks because it elicits a negative emotion when you initially experience it. Believe me I know very well how it can turn that knot in your stomach and make you want to throw your hands up and scream “F*ck It!”
Trust me I’ve been there. I experience this all the time. Understand that people disappoint…that’s what they do. This is not a negative statement, but rather a statement of fact. The sooner you can accept this for what it is then the better you can deal with the prospect of disappoint moving forward.
However when you experience disappointment you must develop the discipline to think through that emotional negative response. Once you can do this and transition that negative energy from your heart back to your head to think through the problem you’re quickly going to realize that there is another path, or solution to getting you closer to success.
In fact, you’ll notice this and the better you get at managing failure you’re going to find that you’ll get pretty damn good at achieving success. Once again the key here is learning how to slow down and breathe in that moment that seems like a big failure in order to shift your energy to focus on solutions instead of dwelling on that temporary loss.
Shift your energy from focusing on the failures to focusing on the solutions.
Just like Bruce Lee says you’re not defeated until you accept that as your reality. That came from the dragon himself so you know that advice is golden.
Mentally Strong: The Takeaway
You’ve got to be mentally strong in order to make in life, but you MUST be willing to build that mental strength in much the same way as you need to build your physical strength. In other words, you have to work at it!
Are you working to become mentally strong?
What are you doing to work on becoming mentally strong?
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